“Dad, what can you do when you have to be a man?”…. James Dean, Rebel Without A Cause
This now, feels my friend Hira Singh, is a difficult question to answer.
How do you define a man? How indeed, do you define a woman? I shall not attempt to answer that latter question, as I am not a woman. However, since I am an Indian, I would like to add in a photograph of an ancient carving.
This is that of the Hindu God, in his aspect of Ardh-Nari, which means – Half Woman. It is a remarkable carving. On the one hand, you should note how the body of Shiv: moves from being man to woman, in one graceful move.
It also, to my mind, shows that men and women contain aspects of both – masculine and feminine – traits. However, I shall possibly come back to this another time
So, what can you do when you have to be a man? Do you behave like Genghis Khan? Are you an effeminate man?
Or, do you stand up, embrace your destiny and walk towards it with clear eyes? Do you then, have the clarity to recognise your destiny, and then have the courage and fortitude to walk towards it,and not be swayed?
In this journey, do you have the wisdom to carry others along with you on the path, and give them the freedom to find their own, and to respect their choices?
Do you respect the diversity that you see around you, and the world that you live in? Do you then have the honesty to stand by these beliefs? Or, will you be swayed by every passing belief, every passing opinion and shout?
Will you then have the insight to discover your own strength, soul and mortality?
When it is your time to die, will you then have the courage to look death in the eye, and go to Yama, with peace in your eyes?
Will you have become a man?